People who are
abusive frequently exhibit “warning signs” of this type of future behavior. One
or two signs do not make someone an abuser, but beware of someone who shows
multiple warning signs.
These are some of the warning signs of abusive behaviors:
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Criticism Name-calling
| Swearing
| Mocking
| Put-downs
| Ridicule
| Accusations
| Blaming
| Humiliation
| Lying
| Withholding information
| Infidelity
| Unreasonable jealousy
| Withholding money or use of the car
| Interference with work
| Intimidation
| Threats of violence
| Destroying possessions | |
The following are warning signs of unhealthy behaviors:
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Loss of temper on a frequent basis Physical fighting
| Significant vandalism or property damage
| Increase in use of drugs or alcohol
| Increase in risk-taking behavior
| Detailed plans to commit acts of violence
| Enjoyment of hurting animals
| Serious drug or alcohol use
| Gang membership or strong desire to be in a gang
| Fascination with weapons, especially guns
| Trouble controlling feelings like anger
| Withdrawal from friends and usual activities
| Feeling rejected or alone
| Poor school or employment performance
| History of disciplinary problems or frequent run-ins
with authorities
| Feeling constantly disrespected
| Failing to acknowledge the feelings or rights of
others
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| A history of violent or aggressive behavior |
Adapted from the Tubman Family Alliance website.